We've all dealt with some form of rejection in our lives. So what gets us down but keeps us going when we get one of those paper-thin envelopes from a publisher?

Easy. When a publisher says, "No," it's not a rejection. It's a phrase worth repeating. When a publisher says, "No," it's not a rejection.

A "rejection letter" isn't a direct slap in your face. You're not being rejected. Your work isn't something they're looking for. It's that simple. It has nothing to do with you as a person. Many people lose sight of their goals because they feel they're not worthy as a writer. Ultimately, they give up. Big mistake.

First, you have to consider that a publisher's needs varies so many times throughout the year. While they may be looking for a mystery manuscript today, tomorrow they might be searching for a good romance.

Your book being published doesn't depend solely on the right time, right place theory, though. But it's a definite factor to keep in mind.

Next, you should take an optimistic approach to getting your book published. When you receive a letter, it's a verified form that you are - indeed - a writer. Your work is worth submitting and you're taking the appropriate steps to make your publishing dream come true. Persistence really will pay off.

Don't let temptation win. Many writers don't send out their work because they're so afraid of getting that loathed form letter in the mail.

A lot of a writer's challenge is completely mental. Just remember, every published author was - at some point - an unpublished author.